Parenting On Track™ Home Program
View over 12 video samples of the program DVDs below.
Or saying “1, 2, 3” in your sleep… and your kids are sending YOU to time-out, then you know that what you are doing right now isn’t working.
You also know trying to “get” your children to behave by whipping out the latest disciplinary fad is nothing more than a one-way ticket down a dead end street – and the moment you turn your head, or lower your guard, they’re right back to whining, yelling, tantrum-throwing, defiance and demands.
I’m Vicki Hoefle, Mother to 5 teens and Creator of the Parenting On Track™ program. I began developing the program over 20 years ago when I started my own search for guidance on how to parent my family in an atmosphere of love, compassion, trust and mutual respect AND still get out of the house on time… along with meeting other daily challenges every parent faces.
Let me take you through what makes my award-winning parenting program different from so many others, and explain why families have found immediate relief and long-term success and satisfaction using the unique strategies and techniques Parenting On Track™ offers.
The program is about much more than “fixing bad behavior”. It’s about helping you prepare your kids for life outside, in “the real world” and this is a process that begins as soon as you begin the program. So, you’re immediately helping your children prepare for that day when they will step into their own life as confident, competent young adults.
When all of the arguing, threatening, and bribing ends, parenting suddenly becomes a lot more enjoyable.
Instead of feeling drained at the end of the day, you’ll have a sense of peace and confidence that only this kind of parenting can bring. And you’ll be free to really enjoy your kids – both now and as they grow and mature over the years.
Here’s how it has happened for thousands of families.
When you begin the program, you’ll take a close, honest look at what’s happening in your home right now – the good, the bad, and the ugly – and you’ll gain key insights into your family dynamics and the role your parenting habits have had in shaping them.
You’ll identify habits that are actually interfering with your relationships with your kids, and begin to let them go.
The Discovery portion of the program will leave you with a clean slate, of sorts, and a clear vision of the values and principles that you want to shape your family life from this point forward.
Remember, as you go each portion of the program, I will be there to support you in the Members’ Support Forum, so you will always be able to ask me questions and receive guidance relevant to your unique family situation.
Go ahead and take a look at samples of the DVD material from Parts I, II, and III below. And, if you have any questions at all, feel free to contact me.
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Chapter 1: Three Secrets Your Pediatrician Never Told You Kids who are bossy, whine, or just noodle around are familiar to us all. What you may not know is how you might be supporting this behavior - actually interfering with your children’s ability to grow into “their best selves”. I’ll help you identify these interfering strategies and begin to make adjustments that will get your family moving in a better direction. |
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Chapter 2: Buttons! What Buttons? We all have buttons – you know, those things that make us overreact and end up feeling like the worst parents in the world. I’ll help you take a closer look at your buttons and develop a way to get beyond those knee-jerk reactions to your children’s often innocent behavior. The result, you’ll be parenting in a more effective way, and in a way that makes you feel much better about yourself and your family. It’s as easy as A, B, C… D, E |
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Chapter 3 - Timeline for Training We have, at best, 18 years to teach our children the skills they’ll need to walk into their adult lives with confidence and enthusiasm. I’ll help you create your own Timeline for Training — a tool for understanding what skills your kids have right now, and identifying what they need to learn in order to take care of themselves and participate in the family in a positive way. Then, we’ll focus on what it will take to get there. |
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Chapter 4 - The Four Mistaken Goals of Behavior Our children’s problematic behaviors are simply symptoms of their belief about the role they play in your family. By understanding the four mistaken goals of behavior and how they apply to your child, you’ll be able to develop effective new parenting strategies that will help your kids shift from “useless” to “useful” behavior. |
While the Discovery section is about finding out where you are now and where you want to go, this next portion of the program is all about actually getting you there.
Along with creating a “roadmap for success” unique to your family’s current reality and future goals, we’ll begin to use powerful strategies and techniques to effectively build positive relationships among all members of your family while supporting your children’s development into confident AND competent individuals.
You’ll begin to see negative behavior disappear as your kids are presented with the opportunity to move forward in a different direction… to try something new.
It’s at this point in the program that so many parents are pleasantly surprised, if not amazed by how well their children step up and willingly begin to cooperate, contribute, and show more self-reliance and resiliency, among other wonderful traits that had been previously hidden.
It is also the point at which many parents begin to feel a huge weight begin to lift from their shoulders. They find they can spend more time pursuing their own interests with fewer family struggles dragging them down.
As your overall outlook and mood improves, you’ll truly begin to parent from your bests instead of parenting from behind a weak, anxious shield of bribes, threats, time outs, and other useless strategies that just don’t get you where you want to go.
Just a quick reminder that I will be there to support you in the Members’ Support Forum, so you will always be able to ask me questions and receive guidance relevant to your unique family situation.
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Chapter 5: Create a Roadmap for Success Parenting is a journey, and every smart traveler carries a roadmap. In this part of the program we’ll use the information gathered in the Discovery process to create your own Parenting Roadmap for Success. You’ll identify where you are today, where you want to be in 3 months, 6 months or even 18 years. Then we’ll come up with a plan for navigating the distance in between. |
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Chapter 6: The Crucial C’s Here we’ll outline the Crucial C’s — one of the easiest, most effective tools you’ll use to build a healthier relationship with your kids. As you begin to use the Crucial C’s on a daily basis, you’ll notice your children becoming more cooperative, self reliant, and confident. As with all strategies presented here, this is an age-independent tool - it will keep giving regardless of a child’s age. |
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Chapter 7: The Art of Encouragement Have you ever thought about the difference between praise and encouragement? Yep, there IS a difference… and it’s a doozy! If you’re family is addicted to praise, it’s time from something new. We’ll talk about how to replace praise with encouragement so you’re actually helping your kids build their sense of self by knowing that they belong and that they’re capable of contributing to the world around them. |
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Chapter 8: YES! Show Me. Many well-meaning parents hand out privileges long before their kids have proved that they’re ready for them. We’ll discuss specific privileges that your children enjoy now and the responsibilities that come along with them. The Privileges and Responsibilities strategy I’ll present will help eliminate power struggles in your home and grow kids who feel empowered, instead of entitled. |
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Chapter 9: Meetings That Move The Family Meeting will help your family stay on track. By following the family-meeting agenda and guidelines as outlined, you’ll create a safe environment for family members to share their thoughts and feelings right now, and for years to come. Kids will learn how to show appreciation to their parents and siblings, contribute to the running of the household, identify and solve problems, and even manage money. |
It’s important to remember that, like life itself, Parenting On Track™ is a program of progress, not perfection. We all know that, even in the best of times, life is filled with plenty of curves.
In this section, I provide you with important strategies and easy-to-remember tools to help you get back on track whenever you experience a momentary setback. Combined with the Members’ Support Forum, where you will always be able to ask me questions and receive guidance relevant to your unique family situation, the Tools of Necessity will provide you the support you need to understand, adapt, and keep moving forward.
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Chapter 10: The Rabbit Hole I’ll present strategies you can use when you find yourself in a lose-lose situation with your kids, when everyone’s yelling and crying, and no one’s giving an inch. We like to call it, “being at the bottom of the Rabbit Hole.” Believe it or not, there ARE graceful ways to get out, and I’ll help you identify them and put them to use. |
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Chapter 11: The Slippery Slope When you start to feel the pull of “The Slippery Slope” – that moment when you begin to revert to your old, ineffective ways of parenting – this is your opportunity to stop, think, and choose. I’ll present a number of strategies which can help you quickly stop a downward spiral and steer towards a better outcome. |
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Chapter 12: Celebration Parents can be very hard on themselves, often forgetting to acknowledge, and celebrate their daily parenting accomplishments. In this part of the program I encourage you to regularly celebrate both the distance you’ve come as a parent and as a family, and the continued growth and positive changes that await you in the months and years ahead. We’ll also discuss tactics for staying on track … by practicing your new parenting strategies and believing in yourself and your kids. |
The Parenting On Track™ Home Program is offered on this site for individual family use only. Those who would like to use the materials for community programs including presentation in public and private educational institutions should contact us for details on our licensing program.