Glad this was handy. And congrats on having your baby move closer to you. It is scary stuff when you realize that with very little pull, the kids really could snap the band. What a relief when they DECIDE to move closer, to stay connected.

It’s such a difficult time for kids and such a scary time for parents. With communication that is respectful to each party, a whole lot of magic can be accomplished. Thanks for sharing.

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Thx so much for that; it’s an extremely timely post coming as it does on the day where our oldest “victim” of the PonT program celebrates his 11th birthday. Over the past year he’s not just stretched the elastic, he’s gone into orbit, seemingly threatening to snap the band entirely. Of course, our reaction has been exactly as you describe: instinctively yanking him in tighter, slamming on the breaks, pushing up against what was less “rebellion” and more a testing of the waters out there. As we’ve eased off thru the first weeks of the PonT program, we’re seeing him come back closer all by himself, easing the strain, and this new dynamic in turn is allowing up to feel more comfortable when he bounces off on some new tangent of adolescence…