Comments on: Bribing—what do you mean it doesn’t always work!? http://www.parentingontrack.com/parenting-strategies/bribing-does-not-always-work/ Your Family. Your Solutions! Sat, 31 Jul 2010 15:47:00 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.2 By: Vicki http://www.parentingontrack.com/parenting-strategies/bribing-does-not-always-work/#comment-176 Vicki Sat, 02 May 2009 19:41:23 +0000 http://www.parentingontrack.com/?p=582#comment-176 Hi, Sorry for the delay. This is tricky. My husband is a high school special ed teacher and although many of the strategies and techniques that come from the Parenting On Track program work brilliantly with his students, from time to time they employ strategies outside of my realm. Although I don't think stickers ever work to create long term change, they can be a starting point. The fact that they have you rewarding at home for behavior at school seems completely disconnected. For many reasons I don't think it will be very successful. I am also a bit unclear as to whether the reward is for "proper" behavior or for something else. If it is for behavior, then you might suggest what YOU are doing that is helping create a respectful, cooperative relationship and work with the pre-school teacher. If there is something I am missing, please let me know. I am reading into this a bit and I might be totally off track. Vicki Hi,

Sorry for the delay.

This is tricky. My husband is a high school special ed teacher and although many of the strategies and techniques that come from the Parenting On Track program work brilliantly with his students, from time to time they employ strategies outside of my realm.

Although I don’t think stickers ever work to create long term change, they can be a starting point. The fact that they have you rewarding at home for behavior at school seems completely disconnected. For many reasons I don’t think it will be very successful.

I am also a bit unclear as to whether the reward is for “proper” behavior or for something else. If it is for behavior, then you might suggest what YOU are doing that is helping create a respectful, cooperative relationship and work with the pre-school teacher.

If there is something I am missing, please let me know. I am reading into this a bit and I might be totally off track.

Vicki

]]> By: Susan http://www.parentingontrack.com/parenting-strategies/bribing-does-not-always-work/#comment-174 Susan Sun, 26 Apr 2009 22:10:34 +0000 http://www.parentingontrack.com/?p=582#comment-174 My son's occupational therapist (whom he sees for behavioral, sensory and fine motor issues) wants to implement a sticker reward chart at his preschool. The behaviors would be assessed at school, but the rewards would be given at home. This does not make sense to me on a few different levels--(1) my guess is that it's not in line with the Parenting on Track philosophy and (2) if you're going to judge behaviors at school, the rewards should be at school--but I think that is difficult for them to do in a classroom setting--that's why it's been delegated to us. In any case, can you help with some other suggestions for encouraging him to cooperate at school? And at home, of course. Thanks! My son’s occupational therapist (whom he sees for behavioral, sensory and fine motor issues) wants to implement a sticker reward chart at his preschool. The behaviors would be assessed at school, but the rewards would be given at home. This does not make sense to me on a few different levels–(1) my guess is that it’s not in line with the Parenting on Track philosophy and (2) if you’re going to judge behaviors at school, the rewards should be at school–but I think that is difficult for them to do in a classroom setting–that’s why it’s been delegated to us. In any case, can you help with some other suggestions for encouraging him to cooperate at school? And at home, of course. Thanks!

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