http://www.parentingontrack.com/invest-in-the-best/prepare-for-departure/ Your Family. Your Solutions! Wed, 08 Sep 2010 10:31:59 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.2 http://www.parentingontrack.com/invest-in-the-best/prepare-for-departure/#comment-483 Megan Kajitani Sun, 28 Feb 2010 02:53:16 +0000 http://www.parentingontrack.com/?p=4213#comment-483 Oh, thanks for this! We've been really stuck with our 4yo on this stuff. Doing better w/ the 1yo already. Seeing how it pays to start from the start!! I'm going to try the teaching rather than the "you can do it," which is also feeling a bit forced... Oh, thanks for this! We’ve been really stuck with our 4yo on this stuff. Doing better w/ the 1yo already. Seeing how it pays to start from the start!! I’m going to try the teaching rather than the “you can do it,” which is also feeling a bit forced…

]]> http://www.parentingontrack.com/invest-in-the-best/prepare-for-departure/#comment-419 Debby Wed, 20 Jan 2010 23:44:33 +0000 http://www.parentingontrack.com/?p=4213#comment-419 Slawebb - I am also coming to this approach - I like your analysis! Slawebb - I am also coming to this approach - I like your analysis!

]]> http://www.parentingontrack.com/invest-in-the-best/prepare-for-departure/#comment-416 Slawebb Wed, 20 Jan 2010 17:35:49 +0000 http://www.parentingontrack.com/?p=4213#comment-416 Last week, while DNSN, Anika asked if I would make some food for her. I told her she could do it. She said she didn't know how. Instead of telling her that I knew she could and go do her best, I asked her if I could teacher her how. This week she has been coming to me asking if I will teach her to do this or that. Mostly it's making stuff in the kitchen, it's a start. Obviously this is where she wants her learning to happen right now. She may not be interested in learning or doing other things that I think are important, but she's asking to learn and I celebrate that! My theme for the year is "Take Time for Training." There are things that my kids know how to do. I know they do because I've seen them do it. And yet, they continually are asking for help to do stuff, or if I'll do it for them. So this year, instead of saying, "No, you can do it!" I'm saying yes and them teaching them how to do it. Because I think they are doing it to engage me, to get a little attention, and this way I am doing both training and interacting with them. Last week, while DNSN, Anika asked if I would make some food for her. I told her she could do it. She said she didn’t know how. Instead of telling her that I knew she could and go do her best, I asked her if I could teacher her how. This week she has been coming to me asking if I will teach her to do this or that. Mostly it’s making stuff in the kitchen, it’s a start. Obviously this is where she wants her learning to happen right now. She may not be interested in learning or doing other things that I think are important, but she’s asking to learn and I celebrate that! My theme for the year is “Take Time for Training.” There are things that my kids know how to do. I know they do because I’ve seen them do it. And yet, they continually are asking for help to do stuff, or if I’ll do it for them. So this year, instead of saying, “No, you can do it!” I’m saying yes and them teaching them how to do it. Because I think they are doing it to engage me, to get a little attention, and this way I am doing both training and interacting with them.

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