Comments on: End Overparenting—One Problem at a Time http://www.parentingontrack.com/invest-in-the-best/end-overparenting/ Your Family. Your Solutions! Sat, 31 Jul 2010 15:45:35 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.2 By: Got a Problem? Write it down… « From Butt-Head to Well-Behaved: http://www.parentingontrack.com/invest-in-the-best/end-overparenting/#comment-159 Got a Problem? Write it down… « From Butt-Head to Well-Behaved: Sat, 28 Mar 2009 17:41:46 +0000 http://www.parentingontrack.com/?p=1307#comment-159 [...] the Family Meeting, everyone comes together to say something nice, choose contributions and solve problems. However, it’s not  a free-for all of complaints. I’m just learning how but I see it [...] [...] the Family Meeting, everyone comes together to say something nice, choose contributions and solve problems. However, it’s not  a free-for all of complaints. I’m just learning how but I see it [...]

]]> By: Vicki http://www.parentingontrack.com/invest-in-the-best/end-overparenting/#comment-158 Vicki Fri, 27 Mar 2009 17:50:32 +0000 http://www.parentingontrack.com/?p=1307#comment-158 Jasmin, I guess, at the end of the day, this is why I teach. Thank You! Be Well, Vicki PS - Lucky daughter to have you as her mom. I know, I know, you are thinking that you are the lucky one, and of course as a mother I feel the same way, but remember - your daughter is lucky that she is being raised by such in intentional mother and she, that amazing 10 year old of yours, is going to go out into the world at 18 - prepared and ready - and that is because of you. Big love to you both. Jasmin,

I guess, at the end of the day, this is why I teach. Thank You!

Be Well,
Vicki

PS - Lucky daughter to have you as her mom. I know, I know, you are thinking that you are the lucky one, and of course as a mother I feel the same way, but remember - your daughter is lucky that she is being raised by such in intentional mother and she, that amazing 10 year old of yours, is going to go out into the world at 18 - prepared and ready - and that is because of you.

Big love to you both.

]]> By: JenniferNault http://www.parentingontrack.com/invest-in-the-best/end-overparenting/#comment-156 JenniferNault Thu, 26 Mar 2009 20:29:39 +0000 http://www.parentingontrack.com/?p=1307#comment-156 Hi Jasmin- I know Vicki will have a comment of appreciation, and I just wanted to say, as well - Thanks so much for sharing! Your comment really touched me, I am often found saying I want to grow up to be just like my kids! Its a great feeling isn't it?! Hi Jasmin- I know Vicki will have a comment of appreciation, and I just wanted to say, as well - Thanks so much for sharing! Your comment really touched me, I am often found saying I want to grow up to be just like my kids! Its a great feeling isn’t it?!

]]> By: jasmin http://www.parentingontrack.com/invest-in-the-best/end-overparenting/#comment-155 jasmin Thu, 26 Mar 2009 19:44:51 +0000 http://www.parentingontrack.com/?p=1307#comment-155 I have been doing family meetings for over 2 years now with my 10 year old daughter. They're not always the most exciting, sometimes they just seem tedious and we have never been able to do the write down your problem a week ahead on a big piece of paper. I have stuck with it and am constantly amazed when I see my child start to implement some of these strategies. Last week, as I was having a temper tantrum (yes, that's me the parent, not the child!) because my child "forgot" to do her cooperations, instead of joining in with me, she hung a notice up on the door and went to bed. The notice said: Emergency Family Meeting, tomorrow, time, who the chair was, what the agenda was. We met the next day, she led the meeting starting with Appreciations, apologized for her forgetfulness and we brainstormed together on how to remember. She at the age of 10 took an emotional situation and dealt with it in a peaceful and respectful manner (unlike myself at the age of 52). That is the gift of Family meetings and why I encourage everyone to stick with them. It takes time to learn but the rewards will last a lifetime. I have been doing family meetings for over 2 years now with my 10 year old daughter. They’re not always the most exciting, sometimes they just seem tedious and we have never been able to do the write down your problem a week ahead on a big piece of paper. I have stuck with it and am constantly amazed when I see my child start to implement some of these strategies. Last week, as I was having a temper tantrum (yes, that’s me the parent, not the child!) because my child “forgot” to do her cooperations, instead of joining in with me, she hung a notice up on the door and went to bed. The notice said: Emergency Family Meeting, tomorrow, time, who the chair was, what the agenda was. We met the next day, she led the meeting starting with Appreciations, apologized for her forgetfulness and we brainstormed together on how to remember. She at the age of 10 took an emotional situation and dealt with it in a peaceful and respectful manner (unlike myself at the age of 52). That is the gift of Family meetings and why I encourage everyone to stick with them. It takes time to learn but the rewards will last a lifetime.

]]> By: Tamar Chansky http://www.parentingontrack.com/invest-in-the-best/end-overparenting/#comment-154 Tamar Chansky Wed, 25 Mar 2009 23:41:02 +0000 http://www.parentingontrack.com/?p=1307#comment-154 This is so important. Problem solving does help kids learn to be responsible and it builds self-confidence because they see that they have an impact in their world-- they can get credit. I would love to check out your program. Parents may also be interested in my book, Freeing Your Child from Negative Thinking: Powerful, Practical Strategies to Build a LIfetime of Resilience, Flexibility and Happiness. There I discuss how kids can use problem solving and other cognitive strategies to overcome their distress about disappointments and frustrations that they encounter in the normal course of life. Tamar Chansky www.freeingyourchild.com This is so important. Problem solving does help kids learn to be responsible and it builds self-confidence because they see that they have an impact in their world– they can get credit.

I would love to check out your program. Parents may also be interested in my book, Freeing Your Child from Negative Thinking: Powerful, Practical Strategies to Build a LIfetime of Resilience, Flexibility and Happiness. There I discuss how kids can use problem solving and other cognitive strategies to overcome their distress about disappointments and frustrations that they encounter in the normal course of life.

Tamar Chansky
http://www.freeingyourchild.com

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