Invest In The Best - By VickiHoefle on March 9, 2009 - 2 Comments
Appreciations - What’s the Point?
I Appreciate …
- “I appreciate that you shared your poster with me, so I could have one on my side of the room.” - Child, eight years old.
- “I appreciate that you included your brother in what you were doing this afternoon when he was bored. You were able to make both of you happy.” - Mom of two, ages five and two.
- “I appreciate that you stopped doing your own homework to help me with my history project (to sibling). I know you had to stay up a little late to get your own work done.” - Child, 15 years old.
- “Thank you for playing with me (to a sibling).” - Child, two years old.
- “I appreciate that you don’t embarrass me in front of my friends (to parents).” - Child, 12 years old.
- “Dad, I appreciate that you put up the swing set for us, because you had a lot to do to fix up the house.” - Child, four years old.
These are some real life examples of appreciations that have been shared during the Family Meetings of families I know.
Imagine if you and your family shared appreciations each week during your weekly Family Meeting. Is it reasonable to think that these kind words and caring attitudes would eventually spill over into the conversations you have during the rest of the week? And imagine that soon, this kindness and appreciative nature would spill over into your conversations with colleagues at work, and your children’s conversations with friends and teachers at school?
Imagine if we all sent our children out into the world looking for the good in people and then appreciating it. Imagine the impact it would have on everyone concerned. It all starts with one appreciation, once a week, at the Family Meeting.
More information about Parenting On Track™ Family Meetings and Appreciations can be found in Chapter 9 of the Parenting On Track™ Home Program.
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Sally Kendall
Vicki
Hi Sally,
I love, love, LOVE your idea of self appreciations. Mind if I incorporate that little nugget into my conversation with parents? I plan on using it during our family meeting this week to see what kind of a response I get from my kids. Can’t wait.
Vicki
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I love appreciations, and family meeting is one of the highlights of my week. We decided to add self-appreciations to our agenda- it helps us veer away from negative self-talk, and gives invaluable insight into what each family member is striving for. Ex: 6 year old daughter- “I appreciate myself for doing things I don’t want to do before I do fun things.” I would never have guessed:-)