November 9 – Shaking it Up
November 9th – This week I shook things up a bit.
First, we had a special guest Comedian, Kerri Pomarolli. Listen as Vicki helps Kerri look at her two-year-old’s “biting” from a fresh perspective.
Next, I spoke about “natural consequences” and how this amazing tool is mis-used and over-used by parents and teachers. Why do people believe that a child must experience discomfort and pain in order to learn something?
Finally, I discussed an article I read about why kids have tantrums – RIDICULOUS. I can’t tell you where I found it, because I don’t want to get sued. Listen to the MomTV episode and hear what other moms and I have to say about it.
Watch the replay of last night’s show.
Gotta Question? A Comment? A Concern? Maybe something that just chaps your hide? Well I can’t talk about it if I don’t’ know about it. Post a comment or suggested topic for discussion below (or on any of our MomTV posts) and I will be sure to bring it up on the next MomTV episode.
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Totally missed momTV this week. Bummer! But I watched the replay and loved it! It was so snarky…so you! And that article you were reading. YOU HAVE GOT TO BE KIDDING ME! I call that the Halloween approach to parenting. The kids are in charge and basically saying if you don’t give me a treat then you’re in for it! Unfortunately, too many parents are and will by into it. So sad. The bigger problem is that there are going to continue to be people to do that for them through out their lives. Especially in grade school. It makes me crazy when teachers take this approach. Thankfully, it hasn’t been too bad. But sometimes when S. and I are talking about how to solve a problem she mentions that. “how about if I do it I can earn a treat?!” I’ve been telling her that a reward doesn’t have anything to do with the problem that needs to be solved.
On another topic. Something I’d like to here learn more about is this. What do I do to encourage my kids to follow through with their commitments and contributions. I don’t want to nag. I’ve been doing pretty well but I get really frustrated when we get home from school and S. dumps her back pack on the floor in front of the door and goes off to play. She neglects her homework (hasn’t done it with out prodding from me for a month), doesn’t pack or unpack her lunch box/ backpack, doesn’t do her contributions am or pm. When she asks to play on the computer and I say yes as soon as… she just goes off and does something different. She would rather not do what she wants to do then do what she needs to first! Then she complains when I ask her to come set the table. AND she blames me when she is unprepared in the morning. When I ask her what will it take…she just says she doesn’t know and won’t even think about it. The few times she has had an idea and we have tried them she just ignores that too. I just don’t know what else to do.
Hi,
Just returned from Boston. Trying to catch up a bit. Snarky indeed! I love that word and I think it describes me to a TEE.
Listen, you bring up a concern that lots of parents have, so I will be talking about it on MomTV. I will run down the schedule at the beginning of the show so you know where to find this segment.
Take care Chica.
Vicki