November 30
Great Show – Lots of heat. Folks are LOVING this new format!!
Tonight’s show asks the questions:
- So what did you learn about your kids and yourself during Thanksgiving?
- And more importantly, what will you do with that information as you move closer to the next holiday?
I’ll be talking a bit about gratitude (I was recently quoted in an article for Parenting Magazine) and sharing a few tips on how to bring gratitude into your daily life.
Oh yeah, if any of you thought you had reason to make your kids apologize over the holidays, I will be talking a bit about kids and apologies.
So buckle up and stay tuned!
Posted in MomTV
Hi-
Thanks for talking about older kids who are still wetting the bed. When I first learned about your program many many years ago, I had an older child who was still wetting the bed. The information you offer about power and the 3 areas power shows up (eating, sleeping, going the bathroom) and that those areas are where kids can show, “you can not make me” was key in helping us and helping my child. I wanted to offer an additional thought for anyone out there who is in a similiar situation.
First, we attended to the power struggle that was going on in our house- we handed the solution over to our child, we focused on providing as many opportunities for personal power-we used the program’s concepts to feed the positive and eliminate the power struggles in our house- the bed wetting did not stop.
Once we were clear this was not about power, we went to the doc and clarified that there was no medical problem. Thank goodness for the Parenting On Track program that helped us move through that very important first step.
From there our focus was to support this kid and let him know he was ok, not broken, and would not be wetting the bed for the rest of his life. We supported him, empathized with him AND had complete faith that he could handle this. How he chose to deal with this was totally up to him.
This meant that I could empathize with him but I did not take care of the problem for him. He changed his sheets, he did his laundry, he chose whether to go to sleep-overs (or not) he chose to stick the pull up in the sleeping bag (or not). He managed the problem and he knew that there was nothing wrong with him and that we love him, no matter what.
And as he grew older his body started waking him up when he had to go.
I am so grateful for the Parenting On Track program that helped us walk through this situation step by step and helped us all turn this potentially stressful worrisome situation into a situation where we could become closer as a family.
Oh Jeanne,
Thank you so much for sharing your story. I am so happy for all of you. I can only imagine the impact your love, faith and support is having on your son.
This will be so helpful to so many parents.
Thank you, thank you, thank you.
Vicki
Here’s what I learned over Thanksgiving:
1) I feel less pressure when I’m not around my family for the holidays. Since we live so far away we spent it with friends instead. They love my kids just the way they are. I don’t have to hear, “That’s not how I did it when you were kid.” or “I’d never let you do that.” Those words aren’t always said with words, sometimes just with the hairy eyeball.
2) My kids are really great at the table. No, they don’t eat or like everything on their plate. Yes, they wiggle around (but you would too if your legs were just hanging in the air for a whole dinner) and chew with their mouths open a bit. But they also say no thank you, ask to be excused and don’t (usually) try to sit on our laps or ask us to feed them. They are polite.
3) As I look back on my life as a kids over the holidays I remember have freedom. My parents didn’t spend their time looking over our shoulders making sure we ate enough of the right stuff. We just ate what we wanted and went back for more of the stuff we liked. Including dessert! I have the tendency to become to controlling about what they eat and when. When I let it go and just let us all have fun things go way better.