November 16
Great Show – Lots of heat. Folks are LOVING this new format!!
Topics of conversation this week included the article “Is Yelling the new Spanking?”
A question from a parent on how to follow through with kids who say they will help and then DON’T.
And finally the yearly problem parents face when they expect their children to behave like saints during the holiday season, even though they behave like terrors the rest of the year.
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Wow! I just listened to this week’s MomTV with Vicki and was really inspired. This is Vintage Vicki and so helpful to me because I really keep forgetting all the training tips I am supposed to do. But what I heard was Vicki address how to reframe our thinking. It shifted my preconceived ideas about well behaved kids and visiting relatives etc. That vision at the end about kids behaving well at other people’s houses because this is how they behave always was like a green light going off in my head. THAT is the goal and not because its about good behavior or bad but instead its about really connecting with society that has nothing to do with me or whether I trained my kids right. I just love this! Thanks so much!
I do have a question how you deal with other people’s kids who are really obnoxious and poorly behaved at family outings. I know I don’t have to go and subject myself to it, but once in a while I do really want to see my sister or someone else even if she doesn’t parent well.
Hi,
Well, the first part was awesome. You clearly see the big picture. Can you look beyond the misbehavior of your nieces and nephews and notice their strengths? Can you be the aunt that sees who they are, not what they do?
Can you be the aunt who loves them, warts and all? Can you be that person for you, for your children for everyone’s children? Only you can decide, but I would guess that if you shift your perspective just a wee bit, you will completely fall in love with these little imps.
Kisses.
Okay, thanks for reminding me about JUDGEMENT. Yes, I can be that person and I am bringing my notes about things you said on MomTV this week to be my inspiration. More than inspiration really because they were specific answers to the How question. Very helpful. Thanks!
J
Hi,
If you get a chance, share a highlight or two from your weekend. You never know, it might be exactly what someone else is looking for.
Vicki
I did go to Thanksgiving with the firm intention of looking for people’s strengths not faults. I was pleasantly surprised that the 2 young boys who are usually wild and loud and obnoxious looked like young gentlemen and got their food pleasantly, sat at the table and ate nicely and were for the most part not too loud or wild. !!! So what happened? Did my perception change or did they just grow up? I was also surprised to actually talk to my 11 year old daughter on the ride down and find out how important TRADITION was to her. (she sang the song from Fiddler on the Roof to demonstrate) I did not know that before. I also observed that we had a talk about what tradition is – is it just disappearing the whole time with her young cousins or is there some interaction with adults too? So then I noticed she made a real effort to show up whenever some new family member appeared and to greet them. All by herself. No reminders or dirty looks from me. I did acknowledge that observation on our ride home days later.
So here’s the biggest surprise – I had a good time spending 3 days with family! It felt like a positive interaction both for me and for my child. Thanks Vicki for all the tips! The biggest one being that you shouldn’t train your child during the holidays but create memories. And we did.